Break Free From Toxic People With This “Cord Cutting” Exercise

The first step is to create a comfortable distance between yourself and whatever you are connected to. Push them back in your mind a little bit to where the distance is comfortable for you. Send the barista back a few steps. Let the car reverse and the driver takes his foot off the gas. As in physical reality, you will feel relief when the distance is enough. It could be six feet long, or it could be a football field – keep adjusting until you feel your muscles relax and your anxiety disappears.

Check again and gauge the mood of your subjects and see if it has changed now that you have set this energetic limit. Can you now see light around them, or colors? When we reset this boundary, other aspects of the negative energy sources often become healthier if you visualize yourself in a safe place, although some remain vaguely gray or black no matter what you do.

At this point, you should check in to your visualization to see if there is some kind of cord, rope, branch, thread, cobwebs, or any attachment between your body and the source of the negative energy you are investigating. Take a moment to really feel this link and see this cord clearly. Where does it attach to your body? How deep? Where does it attach to their body? How deep? Seeing where cords attach to locations on the body can tell me a lot about the type of connection.

The next step is to be clear and sure that you want to cut this cord. There are many ways to cut energetic cords. You can simply imagine the cord being cut and pulled out at the source, releasing and dissolving both of you, vanishing, flying into the light and back to Source. If you wish, you can call on the Archangels to fill you with light in the places where these cords and roots were once attached, asking them to restore your energy, heal you and set you free for your highest good.

Allow yourself to really feel this shift and then rest. Do your best not to immediately think of this person or situation again, or you’ll essentially be re-tightening the cords. Give your mind a complete break and do something fun. Remain in the relief and lightness that you feel now. This exercise is sometimes more effective with a guide or extra support such as a professional medium like me, and sometimes it needs to be done several times.

It takes a lot of mental strength and self-discipline to stop thinking about a person or situation that has harmed you, but you must continue to process your deeper feelings and let the truth about your situation surface. Cutting cords can help give you space to do this and has an effect on breaking the hold that this event or person has on us.

extract from Vibes from the other side © 2022 Catharine Allan courtesy of Sterling Ethos, an imprint of Union Square & Co.

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