Members of a popular internet forum rushed to defend a woman who refuses to be in the room when her older sister gives birth.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/soontobeaunt (aka the original poster or OP) said she’s thrilled to be an aunt, but made it clear she’s not interested in it to get into the delivery room if it happens.
Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for refusing to attend my sister’s birth?” the post has received more than 6,000 votes and 1,300 comments in the past day.
Beginning by explaining that her 27-year-old sister will give birth in a few weeks, the 21-year-old original poster said her family is excited about the process, but noted that she is more apprehensive.
“The thing is that [my sister] wants to be surrounded by family while at work,” OP wrote. “My family I mean; her husband and a few female relatives from both sides.”
The original poster said that while her sister is counting on having all of her desired relatives by her side, she made it clear that she won’t be there.
“She just casually said we’ll get her through it,” OP wrote. “I told her I wouldn’t be there because I’m not sure I could keep calm seeing her excited and… witnessing the bloody miracle of the birth.
“I tried to reason with her and said I will support her in all other ways…” She got super mad and told me how I ruined her perfect delivery and then… [our] mother also got on my back that I was prudish for no reason.
“It’s better I go after it… but I just can’t stop feeling so guilty for saying no,” OP added.
Recently, News week has reported on a number of Reddit threads detailing controversies in the delivery room.
Most of these controversies, however, have detailed expectant mothers keeping unwanted guests out of the room — not in.
For the past two and a half years, COVID restrictions have limited the number of guests allowed in delivery rooms in the United States.
But with many of those restrictions rolled back, the extent of an expectant mother’s support system is often subject to individual hospital policies, often allowing only two or three loved ones to remain for the duration of the birth, according to MedStar Health.
To cap off her viral Reddit post, the original poster reiterated that she was willing to help her sister however she could after the baby was born, but said her refusal made the mother-to-be stressed, adding to her guilt. made.
In the comment section of the post, however, Redditors were adamant that the original poster was justified in bowing and slammed her sister for demanding she be in the delivery room, despite her fears.
“[Not the a**hole]Redditor wrote u/Locksmith91 in the top commentary of the post, which has received more than 12,000 votes. “Your sister doesn’t seem to understand the difference between an invitation and a subpoena.”
Redditor u/AUserHasNoName42069 echoed that sentiment.
“[Not the a**hole]they wrote. “I think a lot of people don’t realize that just because you give birth ‘your way’ doesn’t mean you get to dictate who should be there.
“If you don’t feel comfortable being there, that’s it,” she added.
In a separate comment, which garnered nearly 4,000 votes, Redditor u/mm172 expressed concern about any issues with a “perfect” work plan.
“If her ‘perfect labor plan’ isn’t right for one person who isn’t the midwife or even the father who is absent, I shudder at the thought of how she’ll handle it if there are complications or the baby just comes too soon to collect everyone.” they wrote.
News week contacted you/soontobeaunt for comment.