Members of a popular internet forum expressed support for a father who suggested that his pair of grown daughters leave the family home.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/worlebird (aka the original poster or OP) said his youngest daughter was complaining about not having enough space in the house and the heated aftermath of his overt response.
titled, “[Am I the a**hole] to tell my daughters that our house will be big enough for my wife and I when they eventually move?” the post has received more than 6,400 votes and nearly 900 comments in the past day.
Starting with the explanation that both his daughters are over 21, the original poster said the couple still live at home with him and his wife. However, despite the close family dynamics, the original poster said his recent musings about an empty nest have heightened family tensions.
“My youngest daughter complains that she doesn’t have enough space for herself and that we have to move to a bigger house to fix that problem,” OP wrote. “I replied that I thought our current house would be big enough…if my daughters eventually both started living on their own.”
“This made her incredibly angry and my wife berated me for the damage my comment did,” OP continued.
“I think mine is a reasonable position to take – I’m not trying to kick them out of the house, but they’re old enough that if they don’t feel comfortable living at home it’s their responsibility to stay there.” do something about it,” OP added. †
In the past two years, partly as a result of COVID-19 and skyrocketing inflation rates, more adult children have moved back in with their parents (or simply haven’t left their parents’ homes) than any other point in US history.
In July 2020, the Pew Research Center reported that 52 percent of young adults lived with one or both parents, the highest level since the Great Depression.
And while that figure has fallen since mid-2020, Pew reported in March 2022 that the proportion of the U.S. population living in multigenerational homes is currently 18 percent, up from just 7 percent in 1971.
While many parents have welcomed their school-age children back home, and a recent Savings.com report revealed that more than 50 percent of parents offer their adult children some form of financial assistance, there is still a great deal of pressure on young adults to become self-reliant. to get off.
In the comment section of the viral post, Redditors responding to the original poster acknowledged this pressure and reiterated the feeling that if his daughters aren’t happy with the house, it’s up to them to do something about it.
†[Not the a**hole]’, Redditor wrote u/Fastr77 in the top comment of the post, which has received more than 9,000 votes.
“I know it’s different [nowadays] and maybe they can’t afford a place, but yeah,” they continued. “It’s only a matter of time at this point. They should want to move anyway.”
Redditor u/DogmaticNuance, whose comment has received more than 2,300 votes, offered a similar response.
“It’s damn hard to launch these days and living at home for years is often the best solution, but damn,” they wrote. “That doesn’t give you the right to demand an extension.”
“As long as they finish school, it’s up to them to either accept the (decent) house you provide or go out and make enough money to rent their own house,” added Redditor u/sparkyclarkson, with nearly 1,000 votes.
In a separate response, Redditor u/Mobile-Feed-9928 defended the original poster, questioning whether upgrading to a bigger home is as easy as it sounds.
“It’s hard to buy a house or a [apartment] or whatever, but that doesn’t change for the parents either,” they wrote. “Even if they wanted to move to another place, they would still have the same problems as people who want to move.”