The internet criticizes a woman who left her boyfriend with cancer while traveling with friends in a new viral post.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/aitaa780 shared her story to get the opinion of the “AITA” community. The popular post has more than 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor started her story by explaining that she and her friends had planned to go on a “girly trip” but then invited their significant others over.
“This vacation was a long planning and I was really looking forward to it just like the others. A few weeks ago my boyfriend said he didn’t really want to go. I tried to convince him otherwise because our hotel, activities etc. already booked, but he wouldn’t budge, and said some of them still have free cancellation and he would pay for those who don’t ok, his choice, I was still planning to go with my friends, the original poster (OP) wrote.
“However, my boyfriend started saying that I shouldn’t go either and should stay with him for support and so he’s not alone. I told him I was really looking forward to this trip and if he doesn’t go, that’s fine, but I still want. We had a bit of a fight about this, and finally I went, I had a great time. Ever since I got back, my boyfriend gives me the cold shoulder,” she continued.
In response to a comment, the OP explained that her friend was diagnosed with Ewing sarcoma. She said it wasn’t advanced and his chemo didn’t start until she got back from vacation. He was concerned about it and she wrote that she was trying to help him through it. She assured readers that he was not alone while she was away, as he has relatives nearby.
News week contacted u/aitaa780 for comment.
What is Ewing Sarcoma?
Ewing sarcoma (pronounced YOO-ing) is a rare cancer found in or around the bones. According to the Mayo Clinic, it usually starts in the leg bones and pelvis, but can occur in any bone. Some of the symptoms of Ewing sarcoma include bone pain, fatigue, fever, and unintentional weight loss.
Ewing’s sarcoma is the second most common cancer that affects children and teens. According to hopkinsmedicine.org, 225 children and young adults (10 to 20 years of age) are diagnosed with the disease. Ewing sarcoma is rare in adults. For localized (staying in one part of the body) Ewing sarcoma, the five-year survival rate is 70 percent. However, if the cancer metastasizes or spreads to another part of the body, the five-year survival rate drops to 15 to 30 percent.
Typical treatment for Ewing sarcoma includes chemotherapy, radiation therapy, surgery to remove the tumor, possible amputation of the affected area, rehabilitation, and antibiotics.
News week has written many articles on the topic of cancer, including how cancer cells thrive on the body’s “sweet spots” and a blood test that can diagnose cancer years before symptoms begin.
Response from Redditors
U/snewton_8 wrote: “So this man you love has been told he has a cancer with a survival rate of 15% – 70% over 5 years depending on whether it’s localized or metastasized. And you don’t understand why he didn’t want to go on vacation or be without you during this new diagnosis?
“It’s also understandable that you may not want to be there for him and are looking for a way out so that you don’t have to be involved with a man who may be dying of cancer. Anyway, because OP is a very important part of the situation in an attempt to hide the real reason why he wanted OP to be with him -OR- why OP didn’t want to be at his place, I’m going with [you’re the a**hole]they continued. The commenter got the top comment with over 14,000 upvotes.
“[You’re the a**hole]I’m sure in your post you deliberately omitted the fact that he had just been diagnosed with cancer because you knew that would give you the [a**hole]’, you noted /DelurkingtoComment.
U/YesterdaySalt9464 explained: “100000% [You’re the a**hole] . Your boyfriend found out he has cancer, and you’re more concerned about having fun with your friends??? [What the f**k]. Yes, sure, you were looking forward to it, but I’m sure he was. And I’m also looking forward to NOT HAVING CANCER. His whole world was turned upside down and you couldn’t sacrifice a road trip to support him.”