Comments were confused after a Reddit user explained why they refuse to serve alcohol at their parents’ 50th anniversary party.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/EtherealEagle1776 (aka the original poster or OP) said they “don’t believe” in drinking and detailed the heated aftermath of their decision not to drink it. to do. provide drinks for adults on the day of the celebration.
Titled, “[Would I be the a**hole] for not serving alcohol at my parents’ 50th anniversary party?” the post has received nearly 4,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments in the past day.
“The party is this weekend, so I’ve been preparing for it all week,” OP began. “So far 40 people have responded.”
The original poster continued to explain that they “pay for everything”, the original poster said that they offered to do all the work and that they had great success, until their sister got wind of their plan to keep the party completely booze-free.
“I want this to be a dry event. My husband and I don’t believe in drinking alcohol, and we don’t want to pay for other people to drink,” OP wrote.
“My sister says people will expect alcohol at an event like this, but… I don’t see how my refusal to buy alcohol will stop people from having fun,” OP continued. “She got really mad when I put my foot on the floor and said the party would flop without the social lubrication of alcohol.”
Despite the potentially harmful effects of alcohol consumption and the physical and mental health benefits associated with sobriety, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism reports that nearly 70 percent of adults in the United States drink regularly.
And when it comes to social events, there is often added pressure to get a beer, cocktail or glass of wine, as well as a much greater acceptance of drinking in general.
However, for those abstaining from alcohol, it can be difficult to navigate the murky waters between drinkers and non-drinkers.
Across the country partying and drinking are synonymous and as a result the concept of a “dry event” is foreign to many and in the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors were adamant that guests expect alcohol to be available at the birthday celebration, and called the original poster for “forcing” their beliefs about alcohol on unwitting attendees.
“I agree with your sister. It’s expected,” Redditor wrote u/WaywardPrincess1025 in the top commentary of the post, which has received more than 8,000 upvotes. “My verdict is [you’re the a**hole] for insisting on a dry event.
“It’s like you’re vegan and she’s not and you have a vegan event,” she added. “It’s fine if you don’t want to spend your money on meat, but you can’t stop other people from bringing it.”
Redditor u/ommnian, whose commentary has received more than 2,000 votes, offered a possible solution to the original poster, but primarily addressed the need for special adjustments.
“BYOB and have coolers for people with some pop and juice and stuff,” they wrote. “But if you absolutely insist it’s a ‘dry’ event just because you don’t believe in drinking? But don’t your parents mind drinking, and most of their friends drink? Then yes. [You’re the a**hole].”
“I’m not a big fan of forcing your own beliefs on others,” Redditor added u/Nishi621, receiving more than 3,000 votes. “Your sister is right, people will probably expect something.”
News week contacted u/EtherealEagle1776 for comment.